Guy in the Closet

I found them from the Internet but I lost the source. =( Let me know if you happen to know the source so I can link back.

They are in Chinese but I've translated them into English. Corrections are welcome. =)

Although I don't agree with some of them and some others only apply in certain cases, I think many are meaningful and full of wisdom. Take whatever that applies to and works for you. =)

EDIT: The list is pretty long so click the Read More link to read it.

1、安全第一，健康第二，享受第三。
1. Safety first, health second, pleasure third.

2、不要抛弃家人，哪怕被家人抛弃。
2. Do not abandon your family, even if they abandon you.

3、bf要找最合适的，不要找最好的。
3. Look for a suitable boyfriend, not the best boyfriend.

4、社会的看法永远不能对你造成伤害。除非你同意社会的看法。
4. Society's opinion will never hurt you, except when you agree on the opinion.

5、不要人云亦云。即便你没有自己的思想。不吭气也比附和要好。
5. Do not agree on an opinion just because everyone does. Even if you do not have an opinion, keeping quiet is better than going along with the crowd.

6、不要对他人的私事感兴趣。生活中有很多有价值的消遣。
6. Do not get interested in others' personal affairs. There are many other more meaningful entertainment in life.

7、能屈能伸，退一步海阔天空。人生不是赌气的事。
7. Be resilient and tolerant. Life is not about acting out of pique.

8、结婚的不碰，有bf的不碰，太轻易到手的不碰。这样能把被伤害的可能降到最小。实在忍不住，就要作好接受伤害的准备！
8. Do not consider the married ones, the attached ones and those that come too easily. With that you can minimise the chances of being hurt. If you can't hold yourself from them, then be prepared to be hurt!

9、相貌好不是优点。所谓优点必须满足以下两个条件：第一，自己刻苦培养的；第二，这个优点能让你有饭吃。
9. Good appearance is not a merit. A merit must fulfil either of the two conditions: (1) it is nurtured from hard work of oneself, or (2) it puts the bread on the table for you.

10、自己将来的利益第一，别人将来的利益第二，自己现在的利益第三。其他的都可以舍弃。儿女情长要不得。
10. First priority is for your own benefit in the future, the second for others' benefit in the future, and the third for your own benefit now. Anything else can be given up. Do not get immersed in love.

11、别人说你太丑或者说你很帅，这话对gay来说都很难忘。务必在三天内忘掉。让别人的评价左右自己是很愚蠢的。
11. When others say you are ugly or handsome, even though it means a lot to a gay man, you must forget about it in three days. Allowing assessment from others on you to affect you is foolish.

12、不要在马路上，车站里，游泳池里看帅哥。不看也就不看了，一段时间之后，你会发现什么也没有缺少，却拥有了一些新的东西。
12. Do not enjoy watching handsome guys in public. After not watching for some time, you will find yourself not losing anything, but gaining something new.

13、安全套不是100％。不过起码它有90％。
13. Condoms are not 100% reliable, but at least they are 90% so.

14、要正直，诚恳，善良。这个社会越不容这些，越要坚持这些。
14. Be righteous, truthful and kind. The more it seems the society doesn't allow these qualities, the more you should uphold them.

15、很多人come out，是因为喜欢对方。这是错的。come out和表白感情，千万不要同时进行。
15. Many people come out because they like someone. This is not right. Coming out and confession should never be done together.

16、所有的g都是双面人。无一例外。在确定关系之前一定要两面都了解。
16. All gay men have multiple personalities. Before confirming a relationship, get to know all his personalities.

17、确定关系不是尘埃落定，静等花开。是互相磨炼的开始。
17. Confirming a relationship does not mean the dust has settled. It means the beginning of the journey.

18、所有的g都是自我为中心的人。不要因为别人自私而排斥他。
18. All gay men are self-centred. Do not distant yourself from a person because you think he is selfish.

19、所有的g的灵魂都是惊人的相似。所以同志朋友交一两个就好。
19. The souls of all gay men are surprisingly similar. Therefore, befriending a few of them is enough.

20、远离其他同志。哪怕你目前是单身。心态的健康平和比亲密关系可贵的多。
20. Distant yourself from other gay men, even if you're single. Inner well-being is a lot more valuable than intimate relationships.

21、要别人了解我，而不是要别人喜欢我。这两种处世态度会带来截然不同的结果。
21. Make others understand you but not make them love you. The two different approaches of dealing with people bring you totally different results.

22、多看书，少看同志小说和散文。
22. Read more but not BL novels or short stories.

23、交一个红粉知己，跟她可以无话不谈。
23. Get a rouge confidant, talk to her about anything.

24、交一个网友，什么都谈，永不见面。
24. Get an online buddy, talk to him about anything but never meet him.

25、爱情不是生活的全部。没有爱情的人生，也会有独特的精彩。
25. Love is not the whole life. Life without a loving relationship can also be uniquely wonderful.

26、不要因为寂寞而恋爱。
26. Do not get into love only because of loneliness.

27、饮食营养，定时运动，戒除不良习惯。很多gay注定要孤老，从年轻就打下健康基础。
27. Get a balanced diet and regular sports, and quit your bad habits. Many gay men will have to spend their old age alone, so the best thing you can invest in your life while you are young is a good health.

28、有人握住你的手，不要让他放开。
28. When someone holds your hand, do not let him go.