"How will I ever find the right man?"

Earlier this week, I came across a tweet on Twitter.

A man asked his mother "How will I ever find the right woman?" She replied "Forget finding the right woman, focus on being the right man."

I thought it was brilliant.

On the next day, it came to my mind again. And I suddenly realised that the same applies in a gay context and to me too.

All this while I have been looking for the right man for me but so far I get nothing.

This tweet has really made me realise how silly I was. I should focus on making myself better instead of looking for someone better.

Seriously, why hadn't I thought of this before?

So I decided to spend less time on Grindr and more time on my personal development.


  1. Yes, you're right. I agree on that. It's better and more self-enriching and rewarding to make yourself a better person than to find someone with that quality.

    That perfect person may leave one day but the qualities you acquired stay in you forever.

  2. @Calvin: Indeed. Better be a better person than to find a better person for ourselves.

    @Piko-chan: Yeah, better late than never, right?

  3. right on! I'd realize I've stopped looking and start self-developing first since ages ago. Guess the old fatty me did hit hard on my mentality in searching a mate.

  4. @Tempus: Yeah, I should have realised it earlier. Hopefully it's still not too late. =)