30-year-old Milestone

I've heard people talking about the 30-year-old milestone for women. 30 is a big number for women. For those who are already in relationships, they want to get married before they reach this age. But for those not in relationships, they want to find the right man before 30.

I think the same applies to gay guys too.

I got to know a guy in his late 20's. He told me that he wants to find someone to settle down with. Hearing that from him, the talks of the 30-year-old milestone came to my mind. I suddenly realised that he's having the symptoms of facing the approaching milestone.

That backed me off a bit. And I stopped contacting him. It's not that I do not want to find someone to settle down with, but I wasn't sure about my feelings towards him, and I didn't know how long it would take for me to confirm the feelings. So I thought it's probably better for him to look for someone else rather than wasting his time on me being uncertain. I'm pretty sure if I were him, I wouldn't want to spend my critical year approaching 30, on a guy who might end up not the right person for me.

Somehow that 30-year-old milestone thing keeps wandering in my mind after that. Some guys are most attractive when they are around 30, but I'm pretty sure that for me, I would be even less attractive than I am right now. I would be as anxious as the guy to look for the right person by that time.

While I know well I must not rush into a relationship, I can't help to worry a little about my 30-year-old milestone too because time really flies.

Maybe I should really divert my attention to doing something else rather than thinking about this.


  1. then i shud be in my grave liao hor?

  2. Don't take it hard. =P Just random rants and thinking that are super ahead of what I should be thinking about.

  3. Definitely don't think so hard about it! :) Just enjoy the time with the guy and see where it goes.

  4. gosh 30 years old is when I plan to start living a love life!

  5. Good grief, its just a number. 30 is still bloody young. Whats this milestone and I need to do this and that nonsense.

  6. @savante: Yeah! =)

    @Tempus: Haha same for me. But I gotta find the right candidate first.

    @thompsonboy: Yes it is only a number, and it's bloody young. But I'm under the impression that many gay guys look for 30 and below? Or 35 and below? While not for everyone, some people (like me) do have expiry date where they no longer look as 'tasty' as before.